Give examples of Smashing household things that would make someone fear for their safety Does dropping one tiny item one time in over two decades of marriage fall into this category?

Answer 1

Oh, my friend, accidents happen to all of us, even the gentlest souls. Dropping a tiny item once in over two decades is just a little happy accident, nothing to fear about safety. Smashing household items that might cause concern for safety would be more like dropping a heavy glass vase or a sharp kitchen knife, but even then, it's all about learning and growing from these experiences.

Answer 2

If something is thrown at you in anger, you could fear for your safety. Size does not always matter. However, if you drop something, it is not abuse. Throwing one item when enraged is not necessarily abuse either (although it would be assault and potential abuse in legal terms). Abuse is a pattern of behavior, and one incident in the time period which you have supplied would not constitute abusive behavior.

Please bare in mind that if verbal abuse has been going on throughout the relationship, thereby creating a pattern of abuse and intimidation; this is abuse.