How do you resolve mistrust between two disputants?

Answer 1

If there are mistrust issues between two people it's almost impossible to resolve this problem. Once one has broken trust with a mate, friend or family member more than once it's difficult to trust that person again. It's certainly worth sitting down together and communicating to see if it is worth saving the relationship. Get the other person to list things about you that they don't like and you do the same with them and then sit down like adults and discuss them and try to improve upon the ones that most bother the other. If one or both people are unwilling to do so it's time to close the relationship off and move on. I had to dissolve a 22 year relationship with a girlfriend of mine because she was constantly lying and spreading rumors about others and it eventually got down to me. I tried talking to her (face to face) and told her if she valued our relationship we could sit down like two adults and both of us try to improve on the relationship. She never bothered to take me up on that simply because she can't confront me and deal with any problems in our relationship. It's sad, but that's life. I've just moved on.