How do you get over being shallow?

Answer 1

Hi I suppose it depends on what you want to do. If by "get over being shallow" does that mean that you believe yourself to be shallow, and always will be? In that case, you can "get over it" by reminding yourself that you are what you are, and it's ok to be you. Not everyone can be a rocket scientist, nor would everyone want to be. You will probably gravitate towards people who are like you, so nobody you really like or care about is likely to stick a finger in your face and accuse you of being shallow. On the other hand, your question might mean "I think I am shallow, but I don't want to be shallow, I want to be wiser and more profound." The only real way you can get over that hurdle is to become better educated. I don't mean necessarily to go to Harvard, but simply to read, and be more selective in what you read. If you listen to the the radio, try to find a National Public Radio station. They have an excellent news show every morning and drive time afternoon, and most of the rest of the day is about current events. On the weekend they have some gentle comedy shows, and the best of the best called This American Life. Getting past being shallow is not something you can do overnight. Replacing what you once thought was important with what really is important takes time and experience. Try going to your local used bookstore and ask for book on the Holocaust, Martin Luther King, The New Deal, Nelson Mandela, and something by Virginia Woolf. Spend less time thinking of yourself and start volunteering in a cancer children's ward or burn ward and I'd say in less than 24 hours you'll realize that you are but a minute speck of a human being like the rest of us living on this planet. I seriously think you should involve yourself in some sort of volunteer work of your choosing because it builds good character. I've done it since I was a teen and I still do it. Giving of oneself without a reward or monies is the best character building of the inner soul that one can get.